Tuesday, December 18, 2007


I think I am getting a Southern accent. I listen to myself talk and I notice that my speech has slowed down. Now, admittedly, this is in part because in order for anyone to understand you here in the south, you have to slow down. My New-York-speak is just too fast. But I still detect a hint of a lilt---something lighter—something that has taken the roughness out of my “r-r-rochestaaar.”

It is funny. Because where I live no one is truly Southern. The majority of my neighbors are from the Northeast. My Starbucks in Charlotte is full of out-of-towners this morning – as it is every morning (and I would know). The couple from my left are – maybe Indian. They are English speaking, and having an intellectual conversation about something—I would listen but I can’t hear them over the couple to my right. The couple to the right of me are loud-talkers. She is from Silicon Valley. He is from Connecticut. They are both in real estate and are having an intense conversation about flipping houses. We have a bunch (6) of bankers in the corner. They have been bogarting the couch seating (and the one good power outlet) for about an hour with something that resembles a team meeting…surely something that would be better suited for a conference room, but I can’t blame them for taking the meeting out of what is undoubtedly a cubicle farm, and into the warm, festive, aromatic embrace of Starbucks.

The dude with the table-top baby is here. He always is too – reading the paper, sipping his coffee and chatting with the infant, who is probably about 5 months old now. The kid has now been to Starbucks over 100 times to my calculation and never been able to enjoy a latte.

Two architects behind me are here chatting about building codes and then there are a few sales people typing on their laptops, enjoying a respite from cold-calls and proposal presentations.

My point – none really, except that not one of the people here sounds “Southern.” But it is eclectic. And that is what I like about this area. It is eclectic, accepting, moving, and progressive. It is not the South that my Upstate NY friends picture. I think they would be surprised at how fast the pace is here sometimes--even if the speech is slower. Of course, don’t go down to the DMV, post office or the gas station. There you will find the relaxed “Southern” lifestyle in full glory. And you will hear some excellent Southern accents too. Maybe that is where I am getting my drawl – because it certainly isn’t from the Starbucks.

Wednesday, December 12, 2007

Holiday Blog

Holiday blog – and ranting at the Starbucks.

Well, I am back from the Hawaii trip I planned on taking over a year ago when I left the Biz. It was a trip of a lifetime and I am glad I was able to go. My family had a great time and I hope that my 4-year old has memories of it.

I am finally – almost a week after getting home – feeling like I am getting back into some sort of routine, which is a weird feeling since I didn’t think I had found a routine here in Charlotte yet. However, I am writing here from my favorite Starbucks in Ballantyne and enjoying the sunshine streaming in the windows. The temperature in a wonderful 73 and the Christmas music is blaring. It seems right somehow and that is how I know that it is. I am home and that is a nice feeling.

Before the vacation I sent in the manuscript for Confessions of an Introvert to the new publisher and told iUniverse not to print any more. I am looking forward to a great year with what is now my “old” book. If I can get my act together I will write the “new” book over the next few months, (and yes, I know I have been saying that now for a while… but I mean it this time). I am no longer to sell Confessions of an Introvert myself, and no new copies are being printed, but I know that as of today, Amazon has a couple copies left, and Brambleberry Barn has several. If you don’t see it on the website, give Kelly Roland a call there and she will hook you up. Brambleberry Barn is super busy right now getting the most amazing holiday gift baskets custom made, but I am sure they will be able to get you a copy of the book if you would like. (Just in time for the holidays!)

Besides getting things in order personally for Christmas, there is not much going on. I hope to travel a bit in the coming weeks to visit friends and family and I do need to write. I went to a holiday party this past week and was able to observe some interesting introvert/extrovert relationship interaction which is great research, and I am hoping to do some more business networking in the coming months as well, which will help me on the business side and well as personally in my new city. (That was an awkward sentence wasn’t it! – glad I have an editor for the book…) It is almost a year since my house in Rochester went on the market and only a couple months until I will have officially lived in Charlotte a year, so I best be getting out and meeting people now. No excuses!

Happy Holidays to all, I look forward to your cards, comments and emails!

Tuesday, November 20, 2007

Your Information

As I fill out yet another online form, I am reminded of how readily available any and all information about me. My favorite books, my friends, my address - even my "mood." I know this, I am ok with it.. but how many people do not know that they can no longer be anonymous online. So a bit of advice, (from a confessed serial advice giver).... think about it before you type it in. The internet can connect you with people you know, knew, or want to know... but it can also connect you with those you don't. ---My book: Confessions of an Introvert will no longer be available starting Dec 1st. It is being re-published by SourceBooks! Look for it in store next Fall (maybe under a new name, I will let you know). HAPPY THANKSGIVING

Friday, November 02, 2007

I Want Your Story

I am a businesswoman. I am a mom. These two things are sometimes at odds. And those are not the only things that I am.

I am a wife, daughter, friend, sister, neighbor, and writer. As women we have a struggle with career and family. Some of us find a good balance with work and parenthood, just to fail at our marriages. Some of us fail at being a good friend. Some never find any balance.

I don’t want to write about the issues of being a good mom, or whether or not we, as parents, should work outside the home or not. The topic has been batted around by just about everyone. In my opinion, some people should work, some should stay home, and some should do some of each depending on the ages of their children and their other life factors (job, money, support system, spouse, level of sanity).

What I do want to write about is how women establish, manage, and grow relationships. I want to explore why some people’s bonds grow after they have children, and why some people break off ties. I want to know why having children makes some people smart business people, and why for some, parenthood sucks their drive for success. I want to know why some people can perfectly mange work and parenthood and marriage and friendships with one child, but a second baby is the thing that causes the break-up and break down of these things.

For those of us who have decided to work outside the home, how do we network when we have to be home to fix dinner and get the little ones tucked into bed? For those of us who stay at home with out kids, or work from home, how do we make sure not to lose touch with friends, family, and business contacts? How do we have it all and not lose what is important in the process?

I hope to explore these things in my next book, but I want to hear from you. I want to hear about your relationships, your families, and your work. Tell me what you do to manage, what is important to you and why. I want your stories.


Wednesday, October 17, 2007

The Introverted Vegetarian

I got a bad review on Amazon today. I am still trying to figure out how I feel about it. The fact of the matter is, the reviewer is right. She said the book is "missing some meat" and "missing something that ties it all together." I will agree with the "meat" part. The book is not an in-depth study of introversion. It is a real-life guide from a real life introvert. If you want meat - I recommend Dr. Marty Laney's book. It is similar to mine with the meat.

Of course mine is funnier.

It is "Bring Your Baby to Starbucks Day" here at the Ballantyne Starbucks in Charlotte. There are three people (men and women -- so I know it isn't just a "mommy" thing) with their table-top-tots happily sleeping through their parent's caffeine fix this morning. I feel like I need one too. Luckily for me it is also "wear your black velour track-suit pajamas day" here, and I at least did that. I am half-cool. They should offer us discounts.

Sunday, October 14, 2007

The Introvert at the Carnival

We had a spectacular neighborhood carnival yesterday, and it was great to see so many of our neighbors out enjoying the beautiful day. I did, upon introspection, realize I did not meet to many on those neighbors however. (I say with a tinge of embarassment). Caught up in my own little world, taking care of my son, I did not really use the opportunity to get to know the people who know live up and down the street from me. And that is really too bad. We live in neighborhoods so that we are near other people, so that we can build friendships and create a community. While the carnival made me appreciate the new neighbors, I did not let any of them know that. And shame on me. I guess as an introvert, I reverted to my base behavior in a new setting. That is probably a classic personality trait. But it should be no excuse.


However, I did learn something valuable, (besides to be more outgoing!) and that is to get people to come to you. One of the reasons for my success in my former life (i.e. BC - before Carolina) was that people knew to come to me. Yesterday a woman recognized my name (written on a contest entry form) from the neighborhood newsletter. She complemented me on the good job and said she had wanted to add something to the next edition.

Now, I am by no means anything more than a contributor to our little neighborhood newsletter, but it was certainly nice to be recognized (even if just by name). I guess I missed that. And it is a good kick in the rear to realize that as an introvert, sometimes the best way to meet new people is to have them come to you.

In other news, I have booked the flight to Hawaii - a lifelong dream and one of my 90-day goals. granted, it has almost been a year since I created that goal for myself, however, as with "stretch" goals, it is nice to just accomplish them, even if the timeline doesn't always work. I am very excited to fulfill this dream, and we leave at the end of November for a week.

Between now and then, I get to go to Miami Beach for a couple days and then plan for my little guy's 4th birthday.

Confessions of an Introvert news: I am looking at the possibility of working with a traditional publisher. This will open some doors into bookstores that will be wonderful. I will keep you posted if a relationship forms.

Thanks for reading! Have a great day.
Meghan Wier

Wednesday, October 10, 2007

Autumn in the South

Well, Autumn has descended on the South and we are enjoying the beautiful 80 degree days. I am told that this is warm for this time of year, but you won't hear me complaining. I like the heat.

We are in draught however -- and it is very dry. (I suppose a draught, by definition, indicated "dryness," huh...) I have never lived in a place where there was not enough water. It makes me really think about the consumption of things like water -- (and electricity, and gasoline...)

I have never been a wasteful person - but I also have never really worked to lessen my use of these resources. Living in a place that requests you take 4 minute showers and use your dishwater to water your shrubs makes you really understand that there is a limited amount of certain things in this world. And we can work to be a bit more mindful of how and how much we need.

I am going to go turn out a light.

Happy Autumn.

Wednesday, August 29, 2007


I sometimes see things through the eyes of my preschooler these days. Orientation for the "Ocean Room" was today and it was interesting to watch the interaction amongst the people. The teachers who where experienced as both parents and teachers, were nervous. Very nervous. Obviously more accustomed to talking to 3-year olds than adults, these ladies stuttered as they gave us parents seated in chairs designed for 30 pounders with tiny bottoms, information about the months ahead.

It made me think about how people who are nervous in public, make others around them feel. The room was not full of scary people. The 5 people under 4 were all rather oblivious to the instructions about start times or leader days. The adults, eager for information, sat uncomfortably, just as much or more so than the teachers.

It means to me, that as an introvert, I have an obligation to the people around me to pull myself together, be confident and relax. I need to be more like my son, who walked into his new room, filled with new people and was at ease immediately. He made friends, laughed and played. He was confident in who he is and his comfort made those around him comfortable.

Maybe all extroverts are like 3-year olds... free

Sunday, August 26, 2007

The Business of Writing/Parenting

I am in the business of writing. Am I a writer? I don't know.

That is what I told the kid who was selling magazines though. Here is the story:

Skinny kid clearly not from my neighborhood comes to the door. Gives me canned and nervous speech about how he is from the inner city, looking for a way out of his underprivileged life. He wants to know if I will buy a magazine. "Help him" he says. He says he knows I don't need magazines.

He sees my hesitation. He asks me what I do for a living. I notice he is taking in my hair, dress, house. He says "let me guess... full time mom."

I could have killed him. He lost all possibilities of business at that point.

(Sales Tip of the Day: Go ahead and make assumptions about the people you are selling to, but never, under any circumstances tell them what those assumptions are.)

I said, dead pan..."I'm a writer"

So why did it bother me? Well, for one, I have always hated the term "full time mom." Even parents will partial weekend/holiday custody are not referred to as "part-time parents." Parenting is work... but is it a job? That could be debated. It sometimes takes the place of a job. Sometimes it is in conjunction with a job. I do my "job" of writing, often while doing the "work" of parenting. Or at least I do the writing while my son sleeps, take conference calls while my son is in school and dream up story, blog and content ideas while driving the delightful preschooler to day camp/grandmas/chick-fil-a.

I am a full-time mom. All moms are full time... all dads are full time. It could be argued that mothers and fathers are not often full time I suppose... but "moms" and "dads"... semantics perhaps. That kid has no idea.

Maybe I just don't like that I look like a "mom" at all. Perhaps that is why that bothered me. He figured I looked "mommish" -- ug.

I did not buy any magazines. Although I gave the kid a soda as I told him "no". Thinking back, that was a pretty "mommish" thing to do.

Tuesday, August 14, 2007

Back to School

Here in Charlotte the kids are getting ready to go back to school -- something that seems crazy to me. In NY we never went back til after Labor day -- and yet here the go back like next week. I guess Aug is really hot and in a way it gets the kids in the AC, and they do get out earlier in May/June than we ever did...but wow.. back to school time means end of summer. ug. But then, here in Charlotte the weather is warmer and I am really looking forward to the extended and warmer Autumn.

But..as long as I don't have to get locked into a classroom myself when the sun is shining and summer is still here I am ok with it! (Sorry kids)

- hmmm can't wait til my little monster starts school in a couple years!

Monday, August 13, 2007

balancing -- aka juggling

I have talked with a bunch of people recently who are completely overwhemed with life. They each have so much going on they can't seem to focus on getting anything done. Problem with not getting anything done... well it is still there, mocking you and being that one more thing proving you have too much going on.

I know that men (must)feel this way sometimes. But I hardly ever run into a woman who doesn't. What is it about women that we are all juggling a million things. We have the care-taker/mom thing... we have work and the house - because like it or not women will tell you they take on more housework & childcare than their mates. (I have also noticed that we have higher standards and do this to ourselves.... so we can't blame the guys entirely).

There is work, there is the yard, the house, the laundry, the kids, parents, the christmas shopping and the thing-that-comes-up-last-minute-that-you-have-to-take-care-of-that-you-didn't-see-coming. We have businesses, finances, our biolgical clock ticking/not-ticking/glass-ceiling/mommy-track/...menopause...Oh... and when are you suppossed to have sex?

So many of us just have too much going on. And the truth of it is we do it to ourselves. We could let things slide but we choose not to. We could have less demanding jobs, or make peanut-butter sandwiches for our kids every night for dinner. We could hire someone to clean our bathrooms or just let the laundry pile up until Saturday. But we don't. Somehow we are empowered by the thought that if we got it all done we would be SUPERWOMAN!

The problem is we rarely do get it all done. And so we feel overwhelmed.

And why should we be overwhelmed by the fact that we didn't get the hand painted cookies done in time for the dance recital? Or the vacuum run before guests come?

Somethings NEED to happen. We NEED to sleep. We NEED to eat and make sure our kids eat. (Nothing in the marriage vows require us to cook for hubby however... although it is nice once in a while and works as a motivator when you need help folding that laundry). We do NEED to be healthy, keep our kids healthy, clothed, taken care of, we NEED to have our finances in order and bills paid. Beyond that - getting that book read, (or written), dusting, catching up on a TV show or surfing the net are not things we NEED to do. Get the priorites done, and if you have time at the end of the day to do something else, do one of them. ONE. Put the dishes away and go to bed and be done with it. Because tomorrow is another day and getting one "extra" off that do-do list will be one less thing to worry about then. Well, at least until breakfast.

(Which leads me to a topic of discussion for another day -- delegation of responsibilities and chores - running your home like a business....)

***please note - I know I made a bunch of generalizations here and probably offended a few of you men. Suck it up -- no---just kidding. Now, I know that *you* are different, that just because *you* are a guy, doesn't mean *you* are a slob and don't take care of the kids. I know *you* do more than you get credit for. Really. But just *you*. The rest of them really are slobs. But *you*... *you* are wonderful.

Thursday, August 09, 2007

Meg's Vacation Photo

ok - so here is the promised picture of me from the vacation -- So many great pics were taken thanks to my family's facination w/ technology but not a ton of me. This one sis Erin took and she did a wonderful job. Don't I look relaxed!

oh oh! Better get back to blogging

Ok, so now total strangers are starting to tell me I am not blogging enough! It used to be just my mom, but I logged on today to find comments on several of my blogs. Sorry guys - I will try to be better. As an introvert I think that sometimes we forget that there is a bigger world...

I am fresh off my vacation and If I figure out a way to post a picture or two, I will. Vacation was wonderful. Time with family, sisters, my niece. It was great.

Vacation brain is still clouding my ability to get things done, but I have been doing a bit of research on how to get my book on amazon to rank better. It seems there are a lot of SEO-ish ways to get a better ranking - and the better ranked books come up higher when searches happen and generally sell better. Which -- then in turns brings the ranking up (or in fact "down" as a lower number is better).

One way to get a better ranking is for people to write reviews about your book. And if those people have reviewed before, the ranking increase will be better, especially if their other reviews were voted "helpful". The ins and outs of that is a little nutty and probably a bit more complicated than Google in some ways.

Now, Amazon won't let anyone write a review unless they have bought something on Amazon before - or vote for helpfulness or "tag" an item either. I think this is probably to disuade people from creating reviews falsely. Which, as annoying as it is as the author, is respected.

Anyway the SEO-person in me is enjoying the challenge of learning as much as I can, and the author in me obviously wants my book to be ranked as best it can be.

So I am actively soliciting reviews as a starter, and learning as much as I can about getting those rankings up.

This week I cave company in, so I will try not to avoid my updates here, but, given my track record, I can't promise anything.... :)

Friday, July 06, 2007


the crazy neighbors are still setting off fireworks. the 4 of july was over 2 days ago.

the south...

SEO and the back patio -- a poem---of sorts.

sitting on the back patio. 78 degrees. chilly. it is 9pm and it was over 90 today. hot and muggy, the kind of day where you seek reasons to stay inside. or in the car. i did both. but now find the waning sunlight and cricket / locust / cicada hum hum humming intoxicating.

i should just write a book about seo. of course in a way i already did and it was only 20 pages long and i believe still posted on my website, free to anyone who wishes to peruse it. free. no charge. and likely out-of-date. the problem is i would not be able to update it in time to actually sell it prior to it going out-of-date. again.

introversion wont go out-of-date... perhaps out of style. but not out of date.

sun. nearly. gone.

crazy lady on her laptop in the backyard again. type. type. typing.

crazy lady and her seo.

perhaps, but i am the one with the lovely new patio. the hot tub. the work-from-home job and the ever expanding network of.... of....of....well expanding network of people. friends even. luckily. expanding a network is like better seo. it is in fact-- seo. in a way. in the way that i understand and will share with you. perhaps. perhaps on the patio.

if you cared. which you don't.

but that is ok. the hot tub is still reason enough to visit.

crazy lady and her seo on the patio.

now in the moonlight.

Thursday, June 28, 2007


It has been so long since I blogged here that I forgot my password and had to have it send to me. yikes.

So here is an update on life here in SC.

Every Tuesday, 2 guys in a U-Haul pick up my garbage. I have no idea why they rent a truck, or why people arent complaining that every week the rental vehicle smells of garbage. But it is just one of those odd SC things.

Two very nice guys have been working in 90+ degree weather to put in a REALLY nice patio in my new backyard. They finished yesterday and my son was upset that they didn't come back today. He said "The guys are my family--they loved me" -- guess this means that they were here a while -- and that he needs more people to talk to.

Under the catagory of "Things I have learned..." Bugs thrive here in SC. The big nasties in the yard are constantly being sprayed and captured. My new apple tree has almost no leaves on it since the beetles have decided it is a yummy snack. The termites, the spiders, the roaches...ug... and they are all really big. Yuck. I guess the nice weather is not without its drawbacks... and in that same vein comes the fact that my dog has picked up some fleas. Fleas that don't leave, wash off, or even die when smooshed. Dog got 2 flea "dips" today - as did the unfortunate but seemingly innocent cat. Bedding, blankets, furniture and carpets all treated and bug bomb planned to tomorrow (when I can get all of the mammals out of the house). ug. I need another shower myself just thinking about it...

Current SEO and web projects are going well. Including a new flash animation that I have a wonderful designer working hard on... I am looking forward to having that unveiled and picking up some more work over the next couple months.

Well that is a brief update (in long form....) there is more - but none of it is any more interesting.


Monday, June 04, 2007

Monday Monday

Well, another week has begun and I am actually feeling - again like the world is getting settled. The house is in decent shape, my refinishing projects are finished and some more boxes have been emptied and stuff put away. My office/sitting room is actually one in which work, and or sitting can take place and the dining room table has been ordered where there will be even more seats. I think I now can seat 28 people in my house and not use the floor or bed or plastic patio furniture... that is about 24 more seating opportunities than in the previous house. Now I just have to meet some more people.

Speaking of which - I have met a bunch of really cool people here. And I am so glad to have made some nice friends.

SEO through blog-power is taking off. I think that the www is getting a bit crowded and this will burn out to be replaced with something else. It will be interesting to see what makes the mainstream next.

Well - I must be off to go write. Don't want to waste all my creative juices here.... oh wait. nope, they are gone...

Monday, May 21, 2007


I have been negligent again in keeping this blog up to date. But since it is always boring to read about how someone is not doing something and why, I will spare you the details.

Things in Charlotte are good and should settle back into a decent routine here in the next few weeks. I have plenty of work to do, both for clients and around the house. It is good to be so busy.

Weather here is glorious and certainly a contributing factor in both my mood and inability to complete the projects on my list.

I am working hard on content updates for site such as Team Events. I have enjoyed that - and hope that more site owners realize the importance of up-to-date search engine friendly content. The Team Events site is well designed and has been a pleasure to work on.

I met my niece this past week. A delightful little bundle. Congrats to sis and G.

Looking forward to the end of summer beach trip. But every day is a vacation here. Hard to complain when work is good and the sun is shining.

--- but I do need to get back into the gym. The last few weeks have not been good for the training. The Duathlon is a no-go for June. Another trip up North is not in the plan until at least Aug. I will possibly make the Canandaigua run. Possibly!

Thanks for hanging in with me folks! I will post again soon. - M

Sunday, April 29, 2007

(un) regular update on things and life and such

I am in Boston patiently (as if I ever did anything patiently) awaiting the arrival of my neice (at least we think it is a neice) into this glorious world.

I am currently sitting in a hotel room, trying to get some good work done but finding that my webmail application is sketchy today - again -- I wish I knew why it is hanging whenever I try to delete. This is where my knowledge on the technical side of the world seems inadequate. But alas, there are plently of worse things to stress about. The spam is winning and so I blog.

I have been losing ground on keeping SEO Rochester up to date. If I continue to have technical difficulties with webmail this week I may actually get a little caught up on that. Tit for tat so to speak.

That is about all on me. Hello world - hope all is well. - Meg

Saturday, April 21, 2007

Y'all gita get yer youse down da Grills Galore!"

--just something funny the patio dude said yesterday.

Not sure what is the funniest part about that--the way he said it... or the fact that there is a place called "Grills Galore"


Wednesday, April 18, 2007

A dose of Meg

I am enjoying a few minutes of peace and quiet as the house is uncharacteristically devoid of other people... ahhh. Also since my email box is so jam-packed - it is taking absolutely forever to do anything in there (including deleting old emails) and so in between the spring-cleaning, I thought I would catch things up here.

I have been doing some more web writing, and I am pretty busy with that--and glad that I have a consistant pipeline of work. Also, I have the doing a refinishing project that is literally sucking the life out of me... Besides that and regular trips to Monkey Joes, I have been neglecting my duathlon training. Perhaps I will get a few minutes tonight to get on the bike. Perhaps I will have to take up insomnia again.

Looking forward to meeting McKenzie - who should make an appearance in the next couple weeks. Boston should be fun - trying to balance a 3-year old in a strange city while visiting with my sis and family of undertermined demographic. Hopefully the weather will be nice. I am becoming a wimp down here in sunny SC.

Thing a lot of VT - past, present and future students. My thoughts are with you - be strong.

Sadly my phone is busted, and so I have ordered another - I should have contact with the outside world re-established by beginning of next week.


Saturday, March 31, 2007

Email Email Email

I recently moved and lost my long-time email address:Meg@

Besides the sentimental value-- it was nice just to be meg@

I think I will be changing my email on things, forms, websites, blogs, cards, address books, online directories, etc. etc. for the rest of my natural life. Too bad there isnt a form like the post office has that just forwards and informs everyone.

--other news. Getting referrals from my site and blogs this week for web content writing. Means I should do more on all those, as they are now getting dated. But it is nice to see that I am still a powerhouse for phrases such as "seo rochester" despite the fact I have moved. (Sorry Biz) -- I will now work on the new market. Although still sending work as possible to the Biz folk. Least I can do since they haven't yet updated their website to refect my departure :) Cobbler's Shoes and all that.

SEO CHARLOTTE here I come.

content writer

Friday, March 30, 2007


It has for some reason been a tiring week. It is Friday night and I am sitting exhausted not looking forward to the fact that I have to get my son bathed and ready for bed. I just don't have the energy.

I have been working out at the gym this week - although I can't say I am getting in shape. I just am getting tired and achy. It will pay off though... I hope. That Duathlon is right around the corner, and I have to make a decision soon...

Good work done on the business front this week, although I have a ton of work booked for next week. I also want to get to BNI this coming week, Maybe Kelly will go with me! It seems that there are a lot of people in need of good website copyrighting--but then I knew that.

My friend Kelly arrives Monday, so I have to get the house in order this weekend. It is in need of some attention.

Well I best be getting to that bath. The kid hasn't quite mastered that on his own yet.

Thursday, March 22, 2007

The Introvert and the art of the complaint

It seems that I had to do a lot of complaining lately. I hate complaining - at least when it comes to strangers. I can complain all day to the people I know--but to strangers. It is just uncomfortable.

However, I suppose that in complaining one does get to know more people... making them, in a sense, no longer strangers.

Here is a list of people with whom I am now better aquainted:
Sears auto repair dude (Mark)
Sears auto repair manager (Jim)
Builder Warranty Guy (Donny)
Builder Window Warranty Lady (Annie)
Target Customer Service Dude (Brian)
Target Customer Service Manager (Rob)
Target Third Party Shipping Company Lady (Name not shared...but I still feel like we bonded)
Target Third Party Shipping Company Delivery Guy (Joe)
Ebay Seller who gave me the wrong adapter

--- there are more. Can't possible remember all the great people I have had the pleasure of getting to know better this week.

...weather is still nice. House is wonderful. Computer back up and running, car fixed, card refunded 20% of new loveseat for "annoyance," window being fixed monday.

Wednesday, March 21, 2007

Business Blogging

I am getting ready to send out my business blogging post-cards to businesses here in Charlotte, and I hope to pick up a couple more clients in the next few weeks while balancing my current work load.

Things in the blogging business are good. Although it is interesting how things have changed in the last year. Blogs have probably reached their peak--with those who are going to create them having done so. In a year's time I predict we will have moved into the next craze--at least from a personal writing standpoint. I do think that blogging for business will grow however as more and more people see the benefits of an archivable and easily searchable resource for things like news, frequently asked questions, etc.

A couple years ago I met a woman who was setting up blogs - and "blog strategies" for clients and asked to partner with a Web company I was working at. I remember thinking that she would never make money doing that- and I mistakenly was under the impression that blogs were nothing but a fad for teens to blather on about their angst. --Now they are for that too, but a blog can be an extension of a corporate site, a tool for information sharing and prospecting and organizing.

Here are a couple thing one should know about blogging... If you are using a blog creator such as blogger, you do not own the code. The information that you post is yours but it sits on a server and in code that is not yours. It could go away at any time. If this content is valuable to you, save it. Cut and paste it into a .doc or have the posts get emailed to you (and save those). While Google's Blogger and the other free Blog sites are probably not going anywhere, it is better to be save than sorry.

Also, it is important to understand linking. Who you link to and who links to you will set up your blog and the sites that it is connected to for possible heavy traffic. You may be forever connected. While this is a remarkable tool for those of us looking to create "webs" of information and build credibility with the SE's, it is important to track where the links to your site are coming from and carefully link out. In order for a blog to generate higher PR and traffic, it must link to the parent or corporate site.

--on a personal note, Charlotte is lovely. But the weather-people don't know much about bad weather! We had a forecast of cold wet weather today. Now admittedly it was overcast some of the day - but the temp was between 66 and 70. Perfectly acceptable for March! Tomorrow they say it will be "much nicer" -- mid 70s. It is all good. Kid is feeling better, dog's problem has been resolved and besides the house-work that is piling up, things are decent. I even got my SC liscense yesterday (although it took 2 trips to Lancaster...long story). Also happy to let you know I am working on a blog for Team Events in NY - Ask the Party Planner. Want to plan an event in NY/NJ? I know who to talk to!

Thanks to all who check in and read this little blog. I look forward to hearing from you all.



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Thursday, March 15, 2007

Introvert Seeking Others

For my upcoming book about Introverts and Relationships, I am asking for submissions from other Introverts about how they formed and maintained relationships with siblings, friends and co-workers. I have had several interesting submissions thus far and I am looking for more - so please write to me at meghanwier@meghanwier.com.

- On a personal note the baby still has chicken pox, my laptop power supply replacement is not coming until Tuesday, the furniture I bought to get over not being able to get the furniture I wanted is a week late, and I may never get the "little project" (aka the china cabinet) finished. Oh, and the dog has fleas.

But the weather is nice. I bought a peach tree today, and my car is now officially registered in SC (Smiling Faces, Beautiful Places).

--A pretty good day.

Wednesday, March 14, 2007

Things I have learned this week...

1) They call the place I live "The Carolinas." Apparently there is no need for differentiation between North and South. Which made me think about the Dakotas and the Virginas--which I have never heard referred to in this manner, but since I am from the Carolinas now, I suppose I will have to investigate this lest I commit a faux pas with them ("dem"?) Dakoda-ins.

2) I learned how to spell "Faux Pas" - had to look it up for #1

3) A child who has been vaccinated against chicken pox can still get chicken pox.

4) If you accidentally splash the toxic chemical used for stripping furniture in your eye, it will not melt the eye ball (which is what I had feared), However, it stings. A lot.

5) Xylitol really is a miracle cure.

6) Attempting to complete an iron-man length training schedule over the course of a month is hard. And for me, seemingly impossible.

7) In Charlotte North Carolina gas is $2.41/gal. At the station just South of the border the gas is $2.38/gallon. Across the street from that station gas is $2.28/gallon. I still don't know why two stations across the street have a 10 cent difference, but I suppose it doesn't matter. I buy my gas at the cheaper place with everyone else in town.

8) Not working is hard work. Not working is expensive and trying to get work done while one is not working is hard.

- So I best be getting back to work.

Sunday, March 11, 2007

blogged out


I have been blogging overtime for all my clients and I am still a little behind... Check out the link above to find out why this week will not be the one I get caught up on. Especially Tuesday and Wednesday.

- Meg

Tuesday, February 27, 2007

wegmans vs the rest of the world

it has been said that wegmans is an incredible grocery store. but it does not truly become obvious to a rochester native until they live somewhere where wegmans has not yet infiltrated the supermarket dominion

here in the charlotte area, there are lowes food stores, and food lions. i happen to have a food lion close to me. here are a few observations.

- my shopping time has been cut in half. since there is no olive bar and no cafe and no sushi bar and no... well a lot of things, there is no where to linger and buy things I don't need. a plus.

- i went to get hair dye-(it is unsightly to have roots--it is passe and soooo working mother). apparently there are only 4 shades of hair color here. blond, brown, red, black. That is it. wegmans gave me literally hundreds of options. food lion has 4. four boxes. i picked blond. we will see how that goes.

- i already told y'all about the wine... although i had to forgo the bath tonight as my tub had been invaded by a swimming elmo, 5 plastic dinosaurs, and 26 foam letters.

- you can buy pig skin at the food lion. now wegmans might have this too, but i never noticed. pig skin-rind-dried or fried... seems popular. i am avoiding this for now. despite the dewer meat options available-i am not touching pig skin.

oh well.

i miss having a "shopping experience"--but just buying groceries will have to do for now. there are plenty of other places to buy stuff...(too many)

Monday, February 26, 2007


Well, the new house is getting situated and the art is being hung up on the walls and the floors are beginning to be cleared of the random bits and pieces of my life. It is starting to feel like home.

Went to the DMV today to get a new liscense to find out I needed about 3 more forms of identification than I had. Which frankly was ok since the place was crowded and I am not a fan of small rooms of crabby strangers. I'll try again tomorrow.

I got another new client today. A glass block company that needs some Search Engine Optimization consultation, which I am happy to do. It is about a full day's worth of work, which should take me a full week to get done with all the life stuff in between. Which again is fine. There is plenty to do.

I am also working with an Events Company out of NYC and doing a little Corporate Blogging for them. I suspect you will hear more about that here soon.

-Realized that I got a paypal order through my website today. Actually the order came 7 days ago--which is embarassing since I just found out today. My site is still set up to auto-notify me at my old email account. Whoops. Something else to take care of. Truth is no one has actually ever bought my book through the meghanwier.com site... they all go to Amazon. Either way is fine as long as I sell books and help people... so I got that book in the mail today.

I turn 32 on Thursday. My eyes are telling me that that can no longer be considered youthful... I am having trouble seeing. I will have to get an eye exam when I get the doctor stuff situated. It seems like I could be getting a little age-related macular degeneration - as the computer is getting harder to read. Especially late at night. Seems as though I will have to save my pennies so that I can have the laser surgery to fix that. Since I had Lasik a few years back to correct near-sightedness, it would be a shame to go get glasses now...especially since I know I can get it fixed. Perhaps I will go see the folks at the Rochester Eye Center next time I am in Rochester...

Well I am off to sit in my Garden tub with a glass of wine and a Southern Living Magazine... Good news: I found a corkscrew today.


I miss my friends and family. I am looking forward to seeing everyone again soon.

Sunday, February 25, 2007

Diary of a Southern Housewife

I am settling into my new SC surroundings and finding a few things to note.

1) I have for the second time in a month used a hand-tool to remove a cork from a wine bottle. Which says something about either drinking too much wine (available at the grocery stores here) or that I am purchasing wine with below-standard corks, (see above note about grocery stores), or that in my current state of dis-organization in my household I am lacking in proper wine accouterment. Perhaps it says I have hand-tools too readily available, or that I look to hand-tools to solve minor beverage problems. Or perhaps it is a combination of the aforementioned, or none of the above aforementioned. Who knows exactly.

2) My house is big. It is not surprising to me now that people actually consider 'running a household' a job. I am spending an incredible amount of time tending to the house and its needs. My previous dwelling did not require such attention or time. Of course I am color-coding my clothes in my new closet--so it seems that perhaps I need to get back to work soon, since said new house will keep sucking my time and life away in ways not before seen as I have a tendency (yes, I know I do) to create work where there may not have been, or have been necessary work previously.

3) I am starting to enjoy my move. The weather is lovely, the neighborhood is friendly, I open boxes each day and find new things... or rather the old which was forgotten and then re-remembered creating the feeling of new. Additionally I have found this area to be abundant in shopping locations which I have been sampling, since it is my duty as a North/South transplant to support the economy. I have plenty of new things that are in fact new, which leads me back to #1, as the finances of living the life of a Southern Housewife is expensive. I do need to work--at least a bit to be able to support my life of luxery to which I am hoping to become even more accustomed.

4) I have a pretty good Southern accent. Or at least no one has laughed at me yet. I have been attempting to fit in (being asked where I am from gets old quickly)-- and in order to avoid the conversations about my origination I have slowed the speech, added "ma'am", and been working on the little Southern lilt. I draw the line at using "ain't" and double negatives where no such negataive is necessary, thusly indicating a positive, but I am getting by. At least I hope so--it is unclear yet, however I will keep you posted.

5) I am tired. Moving is exhausting, my schedule is confused. I am not writing as I should. My diet is horrible. It is morning and I have yet to go to bed. My house looks like a cardboard monster vomited throughout. But I am starting to call this home. I do like it here, even though I miss my family and friends. I wish I could share this with them. I wish I could move them all here so they could enjoy the weather and the Southern hospitality and the slower pace (rush hour seems to start at 2pm here... don't know why, but it seems people don't work late... or even into the afternoon when there is golf to play).

It is time to sleep. I look forward to may more posts and I hope to make them frequent. I always do - and they are often not. Perhaps my new situation will allot me more time to do this. Who knows. g'night y'all.


Wednesday, February 07, 2007

Do Introverts make good Sales People?

I have sold and been sold to. And even more importantly I have been frustrated and annoyed by sales people with whom others were completely enamored.

Sales by and for introverts is tricky. But it can be done; in fact some of the best sales people I know consider themselves introverted.

I have thought long and hard about what makes me a good sales person and how I can be better. The formulaic “sales training” routine doesn’t work. I can understand personality profiles and learning how to get a customer to answer back “positively” until I am blue in the face. The thing that works for me is establishing a relationship, cultivating that relationship, and then being the best contact/goodwill ambassador for that relationship. It is about being more selfless than opportunistic. Being great at sales is about passion for what you do and appreciation for what others do.

The same is true if you want to sell to me. Don’t give me the “Meg, don’t you agree…” b*s*… It irritates the heck out of me. Learn about me, ask questions, share things about yourself. Don’t try to fit a square peg into a round hole—sometimes what you are selling is not what I need. (And the more you push, the more likely you are to see me glaze over and put up the invisible wall).

A good sales person will tell you never to try sell to someone unless they are a good candidate. They must be qualified. I will tell you the same thing, with one caveat. A good sales person doesn’t have to try to sell. They just sell. They work on the relationships. Establishing these relationships doesn’t mean just establishing relationships with “qualified” potential customers. It means everyone. It means talk to the lady who cleans your house and the kid that bags your groceries. It means reach out to community leaders and newspaper editors. It means meet as many people as you can, from all works of life. These people may not be your customers, but they may know your customers. If they like you, if they believe in your character and know your passion, they will bring the qualified customers to you.

So, you are an introvert and I just told you to meet as many people as possible. Furthermore, I just told you to meet them, and then get to really know them—and let them know you.


Yes, I know. It can be daunting. But it is just talking. It starts with small talk, and works its way into what you do for a living, and why you love it. Introverts are excellent at building strong relationships with a variety of people. Smile. Be friendly. Take a couple extra minutes to make eye contact and show a genuine connection.

That is, after all what we all want. As introverts, strong relationships are most important. Your best customers will be the ones you know the best, the ones who send you birthday cards, the one’s whose kids play with yours. This is your strength as a sales person—and it is what will make you a success!

Go out and meet someone knew.

Tuesday, February 06, 2007


I am cold. The temperature today was 8.

Yes, I said 8!

A week from tomorrow we make our move out to South Carolina - where it is what they call chilly... 45.

I'll be wearing my bikini and flip-flops.

Today I was reminded of the good friends that I have. As much as I feel that I gave and gave and gave over the last few years, I am getting it back 100-fold through the kindness and support of my friends through this move process. I am so lucky to be in a place where I can value those relationships and where I have learned how to accept the help and the love.

I'm still working on the Zellies - Ask Dr. Ellie Blog, which is going well. And I have a new project which I will share with all of you soon.

Lots of new stuff going on with the move and such - so I am gonna go do that ( or take a nap)
--Take care everyone.

Meghan Wier

Saturday, January 27, 2007

Page Rank revisited - again

Here is a general update for all three of you (my new daily "readership" per blog explosion)..

The Ask Dr. Ellie blog that I have been working on is finally showing some Page Rank - Thank goodness! As much as I know these things take time, I was starting to wonder. The appearance of that nice little green bar let me to check the other PRs of my sites and of course I was dissappointed. The sandbox has started to suck the PR out as it does and no wonder - I have not been working diligently as I should have on such matters.

Which of course leads me to our pending move to lovely Charlotte NC/Fort Mill-Lancaster SC. I am still not sure how to explain the fact that I will reside in SC, near Charlotte NC, in Lancaster County, near but not in York County, and my mailing address is Fort Mill, which is of course in York County.... and I thought we made things confusing up here with our wild pronunciation... Charlotte - Chili - Leroy for example. (Long story to non-Rochestarians...I won't bore you).

--back to the move. I have been packing and readying as much as possible. It is an interesting balance to pack enough and not so much that I can't get thru the days. I need clothes afterall (it was only 8 degrees today...) and food (although I am making progress on emptying the cupboard), the TV has to stay til the move, the couch needs to stay until the last minute when it will get sold/given away, the garage is WAY too cold to empty out (although eventually I won't be able to use that as an excuse) and there are only so many toys my son will part with without noticing. The laptop and pets will be packed 2nd to last... right before my kid...

And so I do a little each day, throw out what I can, use and consolodate when possible, and continue to watch the days evaporate and hope there will be enough time to do it all.

---knowing full well there won't be and having to come to terms with the fact that that will just have to be ok.

My 90 days are up. I learned... uh.... that I am still busy, that I fill the days with being busy when I am not and that my original book idea is boring. Oh, and that working is over-rated.

And so--- I have started my freelance writing business. In fact I have to go now and sent the postcards out to my perspective new clients.


of course not.

Meghan Wier
Author Writer Web Consultant

Monday, January 15, 2007

up to date update

Lots of stuff going on as usual, but I was able to spend a relatively quiet weekend at home with family. I have a nice day scheduled for tomorrow including phone calls for the new house and random ones -- like calling the vet to see if we can sedate the animals for the trip to South Carolina. Things are falling intol place with my move, if only the close date would be settled here. We need a lot to happen in a short amount of time.

I did just schedule a babysitter for down in SC. Talk about planning ahead :) at least I know I will have a couple hours to myself the Friday after I move. Thank god for family.

Saturday, January 13, 2007


I am sleepy - and sick tonight. Fighting off a sinus cold of some sort. Was "recognized" yesterday at Starbucks --- the guy said "a chai latte for our town blogger" as he handed me my drink. Funny. I haven't been the Henrietta town blogger for a couple months now. Just goes to show that when people set something in their minds, it stays. I was only recognized a couple times during the 6 months my picture was in the paper at least once a week. Funny. I need to get the new book ideas formulated. Mostly people have been talking about the introvert aspect of what I write about. Guess I need to work that idea a bit more. There are so many way I could take it and I need to get past the writer's block and dig in. Maybe a "careers for introverts" book.

Monday, January 08, 2007

ayup - of course

I have entered the part of the house-selling-buying process that I was dreading. Today my day consisted of lovely breakfast with my family (that part was good), stop by grocery store to pick up boxes (which they forgot to set aside - have to go back tomorow), swing by car dealer to find out that I needed $200 in immediate work (saw that coming), quick call to parents/life-savers, who changed their plans to pick me and 3-year old up. Forgot cell phone. Forgot Car seat. Got Phone. Got Car seat. Trip to my parent's house. Received 5 different calls from movers who heard I was moving (set appointments for estimates), set pay-date for Nate, had dad drive me back to dealer, picked up car, grabbed food, drove to play-date (and took calls from 3 other movers), Had play-date/mommy sanity time (kids fought the entire time), Left early without getting any sanity. Drove to Attorney's office. 3 year old had "accident" in lawyer's office. Attorney said I didn't need to come in, that I could have called, felt silly for thinking I needed to be there, and for child's pee on their floor, drove home, took calls from more movers, the bank, re: title, complained to realtor and realtor's company about amount of mover calls when I really wanted calls from electricians and plumbers. Found title in drawer of stuff husband "forgot" about, (reason for bank call and attorney visit). and the evening continues.